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Mental Health Awareness Month: Honoring Ourselves—Mind, Body, and Spirit

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May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and for many in the Black community, this month is more than a campaign—it’s a call to reclaim our wholeness. We are living in a time that is challenging, as we watch the attempted systemic deconstruction of our history and all that makes us who are. During these times, it is essential to remember that mental health doesn’t exist in isolation. It’s interwoven with how we think, how we feel, how we carry ourselves, and how we connect with something greater than us. It’s time to speak boldly about taking care of ourselves—not just surviving, but thriving.

Let’s explore what it truly means to care for our mind, body, and spirit—intentionally, unapologetically, and from a place of cultural pride and ancestral strength.

Mind: Breaking the Silence and Rewriting the Narrative

Mental health in our community has often been clouded by stigma and silence. We’ve been conditioned to be strong, to endure, to “keep it moving” no matter what. But carrying pain in silence doesn’t make us strong—it makes us weary.

This month, let’s normalize mental wellness. Seeking therapy or counseling isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a courageous act of self-care. Mental health professionals who understand our cultural context can help us unpack generational trauma, manage stress, and rediscover peace. Even if therapy isn’t accessible right away, writing in a journal, naming our emotions, or engaging in honest conversations can be powerful first steps.

Let’s give ourselves permission to feel without judgment—to grieve, to rage, to hope, to rest. We are not just surviving—we’re learning to heal out loud.

Reflection:

  • What thoughts or beliefs about mental health were you raised with?
  • What do you need to unlearn to give yourself room to heal?

Body: Honoring the Vessel That Carries Us

Our bodies hold memory. They carry the stress of our daily lives and the history of generations past. Sometimes, our body feels tight, tired, anxious—and we don’t even know why. That’s why physical wellness is essential to mental health.

You don’t have to run marathons to be well. You can walk. You can stretch. You can dance to your favorite song in the kitchen. You can rest. Our ancestors may not have had the luxury of rest, but we do—and we must claim it as a birthright.

Feeding our bodies nourishing foods, drinking water, sleeping well, and moving with intention are ways to say: “I love you” to the only body we’ll ever have. And when we feel good physically, it impacts how we show up mentally and emotionally.

Reflection:

  • What does your body need today—movement, stillness, nourishment, hydration, or rest?
  • How can you offer that without guilt?

Spirit: Tending to the Soul and Rooting in Legacy

Spiritual wellness connects us to something bigger than ourselves—whether it’s God, ancestors, nature, or the quiet wisdom within. For Black people, our spiritual roots run deep. We are a people of faith, resilience, and ritual. Spiritual care grounds us and reminds us that we are never alone, even in our hardest moments.

This might look like prayer, meditation, singing spirituals, sitting under a tree, reading sacred texts, or lighting a candle in remembrance. It’s not about religion, but about relationship—with self, community, and the Divine.

In a world that tries to disconnect us from ourselves, nurturing our spirit is a revolutionary act of remembrance and resistance. It helps us find meaning, reclaim joy, and walk in purpose.

Reflection:

  • What spiritual practices give you peace?
  • How can you build space in your week to reconnect with what nourishes your soul?

We Deserve to Be Whole

Black wellness is radical. It challenges systems that thrive on our exhaustion. It resists narratives that say we must be everything to everyone. It demands that we prioritize ourselves—not as an afterthought, but as a foundation.

During Mental Health Awareness Month, let us choose to show up for ourselves fully:

  • Let us listen to our minds without shame.
  • Let us care for our bodies with compassion.
  • Let us feed our spirits with truth and grace.

Let’s check on each other—not just with “how you doing?” but with “how’s your heart?”
Let’s rest, resist, and rise.

You deserve joy. You deserve peace. You deserve care.
You are not broken—you are becoming. And you don’t have to walk this journey alone.

Five Powerful Lessons from a Week in Barbados with Extraordinary Black Women

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Friendships are so important for me, and it is something I don’t take for granted. I have a few people that are special for me, and I can count on one hand how many people I have that are true, die hard, ride or die friends! For my bestie of over 44 years 60th birthday, she gathered eight phenomenal Black women for a week of celebration, sisterhood, and renewal in Barbados. What unfolded was more than just a vacation—it was a masterclass in joy, resilience, and the deep power of community. Against the backdrop of stunning beaches, vibrant culture, and the rhythmic pulse of island life, we reconnected with ourselves and each other. This journey was more than just an escape; it was a sacred retreat where we rediscovered our strength, our laughter, and the necessity of prioritizing ourselves. Here are five transformative lessons I took away from this life-giving experience:

1. Rest is Essential
Too often, we wear exhaustion as a badge of honor, believing that productivity is the ultimate measure of our worth. In Barbados, I was reminded that rest is not a luxury—it is a necessity. No one brought their computers, and no one did any work! The sound of the ocean, the warmth of the sun, and the gentle rhythm of island life taught me that slowing down is an act of self-preservation. We must give ourselves permission to pause, to breathe, and to replenish our spirits. Rest is not something we should feel guilty about; it is fuel for our purpose. Watching the waves roll in and out reminded me that nature itself embraces rest as part of its cycle. Just as the ocean ebbs and flows, so must we.

2. Black Women Are Powerful
Spending time with these women—each of whom carries wisdom, strength, and grace—was a testament to the power of Black womanhood. We shared stories of triumph and perseverance, and I was reminded that our collective resilience is unshakable. The way we uplifted each other, spoke life into one another, and honored our journeys revealed just how formidable we are. Black women have always been the backbone of families, communities, and movements, but this experience reinforced the importance of also being the backbone for each other. When Black women come together, we are unstoppable forces of love, healing, and transformation. Seeing these women, each accomplished in their own right, embrace their authenticity without pretense was a reminder that our true power lies in being unapologetically ourselves.

3. The Support of Black Women Is Life-Giving
There is nothing like the affirmation, laughter, and encouragement of Black women. Throughout the week, we lifted each other up, offered words of wisdom, and created space for vulnerability. It was a reminder that true support is more than just being present—it’s about being intentional in our love, our listening, and our care for one another. The moments of deep conversation, the spontaneous laughter, the knowing glances that needed no words—these were the sacred exchanges that nourished our souls. It reinforced for me that sisterhood is not just about friendship; it is a sanctuary. When we show up for each other, we cultivate a foundation of strength that carries us forward long after the trip ends.

4. Live Every Day with Unapologetic Joy
Joy is our birthright, and we must claim it without hesitation. Whether it was savoring delicious food, soaking in breathtaking views, or simply relishing each other’s presence, we embraced happiness without restraint. We did not wait for a special occasion to celebrate—we made every moment special. This week taught me that we do not need permission to be happy. We do not need to shrink ourselves or dim our light for fear of taking up too much space. We deserve to live fully and joyfully every single day. Too often, the world places limitations on Black women’s joy, telling us when, where, and how we should express it. But we laughed loudly, danced freely, and created memories without inhibition. Joy, after all, is an act of resistance, and we must guard it fiercely.

5. Dance Like No One Is Watching
From the beaches to the dance floors, we moved with freedom and abandon. Every night, we spent time dancing and trying to learn new line dances, much to our struggle! Dancing became a metaphor for life—expressing ourselves without fear, embracing the rhythm of the moment, and refusing to be constrained by expectation. There is something liberating about moving your body to music without concern for how you look or who is watching. It is a reminder that we should live with the same kind of freedom—unbothered by judgment, uninhibited by societal expectations, and fully present in our own experience. Life is too short to sit on the sidelines. Whether it’s dancing, pursuing a dream, or speaking our truth, we must move boldly and unapologetically through life. Dance, love, and live out loud.

This week in paradise was more than just a trip; it was a reaffirmation of everything that makes life rich and beautiful. It was a reminder that Black women, in all our brilliance, deserve spaces where we can exhale, recharge, and simply be. New and lasting friendships were formed, and our lives will not be the same after our time with our friend. As we continue to hold all that we gained on our trip, may we all embrace rest, honor our power, cherish our sisters, claim our joy, and dance through life with fearless abandon. I am blessed to have my friend, and grateful for her vision of creating space for us to celebrate her…and each other!

Cultivating a Mindset of Thankfulness: Embracing Life’s Little Gifts

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As we enter the Thanksgiving season, I have been really contemplating what it means to be thankful. In a world that often emphasizes ambition, improvement, and success, it’s easy to overlook the quieter, everyday blessings around us. We might find ourselves reaching for the next goal or worrying about the future without taking a moment to reflect on what we already have. But cultivating a mindset of thankfulness, where gratitude becomes an active practice, can bring profound change to our lives. It’s a shift that turns everyday experiences into moments of joy, resilience, and connection.

What Does It Mean to Have a Mindset of Thankfulness?

Having a thankful mindset is about more than just saying “thank you.” It’s an intentional way of looking at life with appreciation. When we commit to noticing and valuing the positive aspects of our lives—whether small or large—we develop a kind of inner wealth that sustains us through both easy and challenging times. With practice, thankfulness becomes an outlook we bring to all experiences, cultivating positivity, optimism, and peace.

The Benefits of Gratitude: More Than Just Feeling Good

Science backs up what many have intuitively known: gratitude is a powerful tool for well-being. Studies show that a regular gratitude practice can reduce stress, improve sleep, and strengthen relationships. In a thankful state, our brains release dopamine and serotonin, the “feel-good” chemicals, which enhance our mood. Gratitude also broadens our perspective, helping us to see the bigger picture rather than getting bogged down by everyday frustrations.

Beyond the personal benefits, thankfulness improves our social lives. When we show gratitude to those around us, they feel appreciated, respected, and valued. In turn, it fosters more meaningful relationships and a sense of belonging. A genuine “thank you” has a ripple effect, creating a more positive and supportive environment for everyone involved.

The Challenge of Practicing Thankfulness in Hard Times

It can be difficult to focus on gratitude when life feels overwhelming or when we face setbacks. Yet it’s in these challenging times that thankfulness can be the most transformative. This doesn’t mean ignoring pain or pretending everything is okay, but rather finding small anchors of gratitude that provide hope and resilience. Even on our darkest days, we can often find something to be thankful for—a friend’s supportive text, a beautiful sunrise, or simply the strength to keep going. These small acts of appreciation serve as reminders that, even in difficulty, there is light.

Simple Ways to Cultivate a Thankful Mindset

Building a mindset of thankfulness doesn’t require grand gestures; it’s about nurturing small daily practices that encourage us to look for and appreciate the good in our lives.

  • Start a Gratitude Journal: Dedicate a few minutes each day to jot down three things you’re thankful for. They can be as simple as a delicious meal, a helpful colleague, or a moment of peace.
  • Practice Mindful Awareness: Take a few moments each day to pause and appreciate your surroundings. Notice the colors, sounds, or sensations around you and allow yourself to fully enjoy them.
  • Express Appreciation to Others: Don’t wait for special occasions to tell people you’re thankful for them. A quick “thank you” note or kind word can brighten someone’s day and build connections.
  • Reframe Negative Experiences: When faced with challenges, try to see what you can learn or how you can grow. While not easy, this practice can transform difficulties into valuable life lessons.
  • Make Gratitude Part of Your Routine: Incorporate gratitude into your daily activities—while drinking your morning coffee, while walking, or during bedtime reflection. These reminders help us build a habit of thankfulness.

The Lasting Power of a Thankful Mindset

Cultivating thankfulness is like training a muscle—it becomes stronger the more we use it. As it grows, it naturally shapes how we approach life, enriching even the most ordinary moments. Instead of constantly seeking more or waiting for happiness to arrive, we find ourselves rooted in appreciation. Thankfulness grounds us, making the good moments feel even sweeter and giving us resilience in times of hardship.

Adopting a mindset of thankfulness is a gentle but powerful shift in perspective. It doesn’t ignore life’s difficulties but allows us to meet them with a heart open to the beauty, lessons, and gifts hidden in every day. As we embrace thankfulness, we cultivate a life full of joy, meaning, and connection—one that reminds us, again and again, that there is always something to be thankful for.

Nurturing Mental Wellness: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Community for My People

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In a world where the noise of everyday life can drown out our inner peace, prioritizing mental wellness becomes paramount. For Black individuals, navigating the complexities of society while maintaining mental health can be particularly challenging. The historical traumas, systemic injustices, and societal pressures often weigh heavily on our shoulders. However, amidst these challenges, there lies a path to finding peace, fostering mental wellness, and building a supportive community.

Acknowledge Your Struggles

Acknowledging our struggles is the first step towards healing. It’s okay not to be okay. In a society that often expects us to be strong and resilient at all times, it’s crucial to recognize and validate our emotions, whether it’s anger, sadness, or frustration. By allowing ourselves to feel and express our emotions, we begin to unravel the layers of internalized pain and trauma.

Embrace Self-Care Practices

Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s self-preservation. Taking time for ourselves, whether it’s through meditation, journaling, or engaging in activities that bring us joy, is essential for maintaining mental wellness. In a world that constantly demands our energy and attention, carving out moments of self-care becomes a radical act of self-love and resistance.

Seek Professional Support

Therapy is a powerful tool for healing. Breaking the stigma surrounding mental health within the Black community is crucial in creating space for healing and growth. Seeking therapy doesn’t mean we are weak; it means we are courageous enough to confront our struggles and work towards healing. Finding a culturally competent therapist who understands the nuances of our experiences can make a significant difference in our mental health journey.

Cultivate Community

Community is our greatest source of strength. Finding spaces where we feel seen, heard, and understood is essential for our mental well-being. Whether it’s through grassroots organizations, online support groups, or cultural gatherings, connecting with like-minded individuals who share similar experiences can provide a sense of belonging and validation.

Embrace Cultural Identity

Our cultural identity is a source of resilience and empowerment. Embracing our heritage, traditions, and ancestral wisdom can provide us with a sense of grounding and purpose. Celebrating our Blackness, reclaiming our narratives, and challenging stereotypes are revolutionary acts that affirm our worth and dignity.

Practice Mindfulness and Gratitude

Mindfulness allows us to cultivate inner peace amidst chaos. By staying present in the moment and practicing gratitude for the blessings in our lives, we shift our focus from what’s lacking to what’s abundant. Incorporating mindfulness practices such as deep breathing, yoga, or nature walks into our daily routines can help alleviate stress and anxiety.

Advocate for Systemic Change

Advocating for systemic change is essential for creating a more just and equitable society. Addressing the root causes of mental health disparities, dismantling systemic racism, and advocating for accessible and culturally competent mental health resources are critical steps towards collective healing.

As May is National Mental Health, let us remember that nurturing our mental wellness is an ongoing journey of self-discovery, healing, and resilience. By acknowledging our struggles, embracing self-care practices, seeking professional support, cultivating community, embracing our cultural identity, practicing mindfulness, and advocating for systemic change, we empower ourselves to reclaim our mental health and find peace amidst adversity. Remember, you are not alone, and your mental health matters.