Joy as a Form of Resistance!

In a time where Black communities across America face a relentless stream of cultural, political, and emotional trauma—joy becomes more than a feeling. It becomes a radical act. The weight of racism, economic disparity, police violence, erasure, and political disregard bears down with unrelenting force. And yet, against this backdrop of injustice, Black joy rises. Not because the world has given us permission, but because we’ve chosen it as a form of resistance.

Joy Is Not a Distraction. It’s a Declaration.

In the realm of mental health, joy is often regarded as a byproduct of healing. But for Black Americans navigating a sociopolitical climate marked by racial injustice, cultural erasure, and historical trauma, joy is not just a feeling—it is an act of survival. It is, quite literally, resistance.

From a clinical perspective, persistent exposure to racialized trauma can lead to cumulative stress—often referred to as weathering—that takes a toll on both mental and physical health. The ongoing impact of police violence, health disparities, microaggressions, and systemic inequity has left many Black individuals in a chronic state of hypervigilance. For some, this manifests as anxiety, depression, racial battle fatigue, or even complex PTSD. Yet in the midst of all this, many in the Black community continue to create space for laughter, love, creativity, and celebration.

This is not a contradiction. It is a deeply therapeutic response.To be joyful in a world that has consistently tried to rob Black people of their humanity is defiant. Joy says, I still exist. I still love. I still laugh. I still create. I still dance. In this way, joy is not frivolous—it’s revolutionary. In every smile shared at the cookout, in every spontaneous moment of laughter between sisters, in every sideline cheer at youth games, or in every perfectly timed “Y’all alright?” text that turns into a healing phone call—Black joy holds space for healing, connection, and spiritual defiance.

What If You Just Had Fun?

That question—”What if you just had fun?”—might seem too light for times like these. But it’s not meant to suggest apathy. Rather, it’s an invitation to reclaim something sacred.

What if you gave yourself permission to feel free, even when the world tells you to stay on high alert?
What if you allowed your soul to breathe, to dance, to sing, to wear colors that make no sense but bring you joy?
What if you told the truth about your pain—and still chose laughter in the same breath?

In a culture that feeds off Black pain for entertainment, economics, and policy, Black joy breaks the cycle. It rewrites the narrative. It reminds us that our ancestors didn’t just survive—they celebrated, they created, they dreamed.

Choosing Joy Without Denying Reality

Let’s be clear: choosing joy does not mean ignoring grief, anger, or fear. Black people have long held the skill of “both/and”—we grieve and we grind, we rage and we rest, we cry and we cook. We understand that joy can live in the same room as pain.

To rest, to dance, to play spades, to sing loudly off-key, to roller skate at sunset, to tell that same funny story one more time—is to declare, I will not be defined by trauma alone. That is not trivial. That is sacred.

A Call to Radical Joy

This is your reminder: Your joy is not an accessory to your activism. It is part of your liberation. Protect it. Practice it. Pass it on.

So yes, in this time of cultural reckoning and social fatigue, what if you just had fun? Not to run from what’s wrong, but to ground yourself in what’s still right. In who you still are. In what you still deserve.

Joy is resistance.
Joy is refuge.
Joy is your birthright.

And nobody—no system, no headline, no policymaker—can take it away.


Five Powerful Lessons from a Week in Barbados with Extraordinary Black Women

Friendships are so important for me, and it is something I don’t take for granted. I have a few people that are special for me, and I can count on one hand how many people I have that are true, die hard, ride or die friends! For my bestie of over 44 years 60th birthday, she gathered eight phenomenal Black women for a week of celebration, sisterhood, and renewal in Barbados. What unfolded was more than just a vacation—it was a masterclass in joy, resilience, and the deep power of community. Against the backdrop of stunning beaches, vibrant culture, and the rhythmic pulse of island life, we reconnected with ourselves and each other. This journey was more than just an escape; it was a sacred retreat where we rediscovered our strength, our laughter, and the necessity of prioritizing ourselves. Here are five transformative lessons I took away from this life-giving experience:

1. Rest is Essential
Too often, we wear exhaustion as a badge of honor, believing that productivity is the ultimate measure of our worth. In Barbados, I was reminded that rest is not a luxury—it is a necessity. No one brought their computers, and no one did any work! The sound of the ocean, the warmth of the sun, and the gentle rhythm of island life taught me that slowing down is an act of self-preservation. We must give ourselves permission to pause, to breathe, and to replenish our spirits. Rest is not something we should feel guilty about; it is fuel for our purpose. Watching the waves roll in and out reminded me that nature itself embraces rest as part of its cycle. Just as the ocean ebbs and flows, so must we.

2. Black Women Are Powerful
Spending time with these women—each of whom carries wisdom, strength, and grace—was a testament to the power of Black womanhood. We shared stories of triumph and perseverance, and I was reminded that our collective resilience is unshakable. The way we uplifted each other, spoke life into one another, and honored our journeys revealed just how formidable we are. Black women have always been the backbone of families, communities, and movements, but this experience reinforced the importance of also being the backbone for each other. When Black women come together, we are unstoppable forces of love, healing, and transformation. Seeing these women, each accomplished in their own right, embrace their authenticity without pretense was a reminder that our true power lies in being unapologetically ourselves.

3. The Support of Black Women Is Life-Giving
There is nothing like the affirmation, laughter, and encouragement of Black women. Throughout the week, we lifted each other up, offered words of wisdom, and created space for vulnerability. It was a reminder that true support is more than just being present—it’s about being intentional in our love, our listening, and our care for one another. The moments of deep conversation, the spontaneous laughter, the knowing glances that needed no words—these were the sacred exchanges that nourished our souls. It reinforced for me that sisterhood is not just about friendship; it is a sanctuary. When we show up for each other, we cultivate a foundation of strength that carries us forward long after the trip ends.

4. Live Every Day with Unapologetic Joy
Joy is our birthright, and we must claim it without hesitation. Whether it was savoring delicious food, soaking in breathtaking views, or simply relishing each other’s presence, we embraced happiness without restraint. We did not wait for a special occasion to celebrate—we made every moment special. This week taught me that we do not need permission to be happy. We do not need to shrink ourselves or dim our light for fear of taking up too much space. We deserve to live fully and joyfully every single day. Too often, the world places limitations on Black women’s joy, telling us when, where, and how we should express it. But we laughed loudly, danced freely, and created memories without inhibition. Joy, after all, is an act of resistance, and we must guard it fiercely.

5. Dance Like No One Is Watching
From the beaches to the dance floors, we moved with freedom and abandon. Every night, we spent time dancing and trying to learn new line dances, much to our struggle! Dancing became a metaphor for life—expressing ourselves without fear, embracing the rhythm of the moment, and refusing to be constrained by expectation. There is something liberating about moving your body to music without concern for how you look or who is watching. It is a reminder that we should live with the same kind of freedom—unbothered by judgment, uninhibited by societal expectations, and fully present in our own experience. Life is too short to sit on the sidelines. Whether it’s dancing, pursuing a dream, or speaking our truth, we must move boldly and unapologetically through life. Dance, love, and live out loud.

This week in paradise was more than just a trip; it was a reaffirmation of everything that makes life rich and beautiful. It was a reminder that Black women, in all our brilliance, deserve spaces where we can exhale, recharge, and simply be. New and lasting friendships were formed, and our lives will not be the same after our time with our friend. As we continue to hold all that we gained on our trip, may we all embrace rest, honor our power, cherish our sisters, claim our joy, and dance through life with fearless abandon. I am blessed to have my friend, and grateful for her vision of creating space for us to celebrate her…and each other!